New marriage relationship: first cohabitation test marriage?

In a modern society where multiple values ​​subvert the tradition, we are no longer forced to express our relationship with men and women, but it also makes a pair of lovers from love to marriage. It is not as clear as before, love is married, or it will break up. I have never turned around and circled the corners. Now, at the end of the road, there is still a third choice called “cohabitation”. The fashionable saying is “trial marriage”. Some people try it successfully, others try it again but not. From the way the lovers lead to the red carpet, more variables are buried. Psychologists say that “not ready yet” is the most common phrase for cohabiting men and women. It is obvious that between cohabitation and marriage, the difference is not just a thin marriage certificate, but more commitment. , responsibilities and endless expectations and requirements. In a beautiful cohabitation relationship, they are not non-existent, or they are often intentionally or unintentionally ignored. It’s like getting married. If a man earns money without raising a family or a woman’s home and doesn’t cook, it will definitely lead to endless disputes. The traditional role expectations and the rights and obligations conferred by the law will become unbreakable human shackles. Therefore, strictly speaking No one can expect to be prepared for the reality that will be faced after marriage. “There is only one problem: do you want to be responsible?” The prince and the princess took the “ball” into the auditorium, but more and more, but behind The number of invisible abortions is probably equal. The loss seems to be a woman who advertises “equal equality.” Some people describe “cohabitation” as a kind of “ready to retreat” relationship. In uncertain times, we should talk about uncertain love. We use a term commonly used by stocks: “Don’t put all the eggs in the same basket.” In the traditional view of chastity, a woman who has “sleeped by a man” has to live with him for a lifetime. The old picture is: After a sexual relationship between a couple of men and women, the woman pulls up the clothes The crispy breasts are half-naked and said to the lover, “You can’t bear me!” “Because in a conservative old-fashioned society, if a woman loses her virginity, she may not be able to marry for the rest of her life. But now in the 21st century, every three-seventh marriage has a sinful divorce environment. Some people think that Marriage failure is like a permanent memory for women. The road to remarriage after divorce is often full of thorns. Unlike the cohabitation relationship, women can try again and try to find the success of both parties and join hands in the wedding hall. “It is still white paper. “One, against the ancient woman’s “one trial life”, fortunately and unfortunately, the result can be said to be very ironic. People who believe in love will always say: “When two people fall in love, why care about the paper marriage certificate? “But marriage, women are not married.” When a third party intervenes, the feelings are easy to change. This revenge and abandoned psychology often makes people unable to say goodbye, so the love caused by ending the cohabitation relationship, The self-defeating incident can be said to be the most trepidation. The counselors pointed out that the collapse of the cohabitation relationship has the biggest blow to the parties from the inability to endure the “infidelity” or “betrayal” of the other party. In the relationship, the tensions caused are actually the same. However, because of the legal backing of the marriage incident, the two sides can further negotiate and negotiate, and there is room for buffering. However, the cohabitation relationship is directly entering the showdown stage. When the other party insists: “No. What is good to talk about! “He just wants to break up. Ten big trucks can’t stop. What kind of “one-night couples have a hundred days”? How can a consciously abandoned party calm down the anger? In the traditional “male strong” In the bad interaction of women, we often see that when a cohabiting man decides to break up, his woman may use extreme means to hang himself, jump off the building, cut the bowl, etc., in an attempt to save back the strong protest. However, when a cohabiting woman packs her bags and prepares to leave, her man may kill her. It can be seen that in a cohabitation relationship lacking legal protection in a cohabitation relationship that lacks legal protection, it is necessary to turn passive into initiative and leave more for yourself. If you withdraw from the road, you won’t lose all the chess. Therefore, the bad or not bad paper marriage certificate has a great impact on the modern relationship between men and women, but no one likes to follow the other half of the “not ready” The wedding hall is lying, especially women. However, if two people live together for a long time, the chances of formal marriage will be reduced day by day. Unless there is a child, the two sides will think that they should go through a formal procedure. Then, “Give a good name to the child’s mother.” At that time, the two people are probably already “old husbands and wives”. The passion for young and frivolous has already cooled down. Perhaps it is a small restaurant near the home where you can hang a table and invite some Even if the family and friends have completed the wedding ceremony, “I am not worried about this?” From a young age, I would like to say that a female friend who is “white gauze and cast a bride” can say no regrets. In other words, in the cohabitation relationship, most women Still eager to get married, but they have been waiting for men to say: “Let’s get married!” Some people hold the mood of “someday waiting for you”; some people set a deadline for waiting, give the other party an ultimatum, no If you succeed, you will be married. After the deadline, the girl will not wait. If you fail, you can achieve the effect of “forced marriage.” In the uncertain cohabitation relationship, the only thing we can determine is that happiness cannot wait. The problem is not the preparation of both parties. Well, no, but because you are willing to be responsible for the other party? In the era when multiple values ​​are confusing for personal behavior, this is still the unchanging standard for examining true love! The feelings have different metaphors. Some people think that strong feelings are black holes, such as tornadoes that destroy the normal order of life. Some people think that the emotions that are constantly changing and chaos are like a constant high fever. Some people think that Plato is stable. The euphoria is also valuable because it gives life a faint scent; But in the end, almost no one is completely satisfied with their emotional life, because in the end, all the types of emotions are nothing more than two types. One type of fireworks can shine on our life, but after that we have to clean the fireworks and debris. By the belief, responsibility or other power to live; the other is warm as charcoal fire, not shining and not jumping, only two people close enough to warm their fingers, but such a pot of charcoal, through the constant Add, you can red hot to our coveted years. When we have physical strength and have the mood to chase our own emotional life, which one do you choose? Is it a fireworks or a warm charcoal pot? In fact, any choice will give us a little regret: people who choose feelings like fireworks may account for Compared with oneself, there is less emotion than others, the kind that can slowly moisturize people instead of letting your internal organs burn, the kind of serenity that like two horses gently put the forehead together. Because the expression of emotions is not intense and involuntary, the kindness that lasts for a long time is concentrated in the very common place of the market, kitchen, laundry room …… but, like a bird that has been flying for a long time in a smooth airflow, I am eager to encounter cyclones, and in the vortex of the airflow, the people who are satisfied with the charcoal pots at the beginning, at some point in their 30s, 35s and even 40s, will be strongly dissatisfied with this feeling. . Always raining slowly and slowly, I always send you hand cream, scarves and oversized coats. I never think of sending you flowers, beach vacation tickets and a heart-wrenching dating plan. Like a ripe pomegranate, it splits a small hole, eager to thicken the clouds in the sky, and the wind is a little more intense, allowing the sudden storm to wash away the hope of splitting. People are always so contradictory, fragments of countless emotional encounters are sintered into various forms of bricks and tiles, and consultants and writers can get countless inspirations from them, but no one has the ability to assert that I, already in the emotional field. All the mystery; I can lead all the people through the maze. Of course I can’t. It is not easy to determine whether the feeling of getting to the hand is what you really want. It is easy to look after this time and doubt your own eyesight. I wonder if there is any better wheat in the world waiting for myself. The other type is warm as a charcoal fire, not shining and not jumping, only two people close enough to warm their fingers, but such a pot of charcoal, by constantly adding, can be red hot to our coveted years. When we have physical strength and have the mood to chase our own emotional life, which one do you choose? Is it a fireworks or a warm charcoal pot? In fact, any choice will give us a little regret: people who choose feelings like fireworks may account for Compared with oneself, there is less emotion than others, the kind that can slowly moisturize people instead of letting your internal organs burn, the kind of serenity that like two horses gently put the forehead together. Because the expression of emotions is not intense and involuntary, the kindness that lasts for a long time is concentrated in the very common place of the market, kitchen, laundry room …… but, like a bird that has been flying for a long time in a smooth airflow, I am eager to encounter cyclones, and in the vortex of the airflow, the people who are satisfied with the charcoal pots at the beginning, at some point in their 30s, 35s and even 40s, will be strongly dissatisfied with this feeling. . Always raining slowly and slowly, I always send you hand cream, scarves and oversized coats. I never think of sending you flowers, beach vacation tickets and a heart-wrenching dating plan. Like a ripe pomegranate, it splits a small hole, eager to thicken the clouds in the sky, and the wind is a little more intense, allowing the sudden storm to wash away the hope of splitting. People are always so contradictory, fragments of countless emotional encounters are sintered into various forms of bricks and tiles, and consultants and writers can get countless inspirations from them, but no one has the ability to assert that I, already in the emotional field. All the mystery; I can lead all the people through the maze. Of course I can’t. It is not easy to determine whether the feeling of getting to the hand is what you really want. It is easy to look after this time and doubt your own eyesight. I wonder if there is any better wheat in the world waiting for myself. The other type is warm as a charcoal fire, not shining and not jumping, only two people close enough to warm their fingers, but such a pot of charcoal, by constantly adding, can be red hot to our coveted years. When we have physical strength and have the mood to chase our own emotional life, which one do you choose? Is it a fireworks or a warm charcoal pot? In fact, any choice will give us a little regret: people who choose feelings like fireworks may account for Compared with oneself, there is less emotion than others, the kind that can slowly moisturize people instead of letting your internal organs burn, the kind of serenity that like two horses gently put the forehead together. Because the expression of emotions is not intense and involuntary, the kindness that lasts for a long time is concentrated in the very common place of the market, kitchen, laundry room …… but, like a bird that has been flying for a long time in a smooth airflow, I am eager to encounter cyclones, and in the vortex of the airflow, the people who are satisfied with the charcoal pots at the beginning, at some point in their 30s, 35s and even 40s, will be strongly dissatisfied with this feeling. . Always raining slowly and slowly, I always send you hand cream, scarves and oversized coats. I never think of sending you flowers, beach vacation tickets and a heart-wrenching dating plan. Like a ripe pomegranate, it splits a small hole, eager to thicken the clouds in the sky, and the wind is a little more intense, allowing the sudden storm to wash away the hope of splitting. People are always so contradictory, fragments of countless emotional encounters are sintered into various forms of bricks and tiles, and consultants and writers can get countless inspirations from them, but no one has the ability to assert that I, already in the emotional field. All the mystery; I can lead all the people through the maze. Of course I can’t. It is not easy to determine whether the feeling of getting to the hand is what you really want. It is easy to look after this time and doubt your own eyesight. I wonder if there is any better wheat in the world waiting for myself. But, like a bird that has been flying for a long time in a steady stream of air, eager to encounter a cyclone, and to show a heroic attitude in the vortex of the airflow, the person who was satisfied with the charcoal pot in the first place, at their 30s and 35s, even At some point in his 40s, he will be strongly dissatisfied with this feeling. Always raining slowly and slowly, I always send you hand cream, scarves and oversized coats. I never think of sending you flowers, beach vacation tickets and a heart-wrenching dating plan. Like a ripe pomegranate, it splits a small hole, eager to thicken the clouds in the sky, and the wind is a little more intense, allowing the sudden storm to wash away the hope of splitting. People are always so contradictory, fragments of countless emotional encounters are sintered into various forms of bricks and tiles, and consultants and writers can get countless inspirations from them, but no one has the ability to assert that I, already in the emotional field. All the mystery; I can lead all the people through the maze. Of course I can’t. It is not easy to determine whether the feeling of getting to the hand is what you really want. It is easy to look after this time and doubt your own eyesight. I wonder if there is any better wheat in the world waiting for myself. But, like a bird that has been flying for a long time in a steady stream of air, eager to encounter a cyclone, and to show a heroic attitude in the vortex of the airflow, the person who was satisfied with the charcoal pot in the first place, at their 30s and 35s, even At some point in his 40s, he will be strongly dissatisfied with this feeling. Always raining slowly and slowly, I always send you hand cream, scarves and oversized coats. I never think of sending you flowers, beach vacation tickets and a heart-wrenching dating plan. Like a ripe pomegranate, it splits a small hole, eager to thicken the clouds in the sky, and the wind is a little more intense, allowing the sudden storm to wash away the hope of splitting. People are always so contradictory, fragments of countless emotional encounters are sintered into various forms of bricks and tiles, and consultants and writers can get countless inspirations from them, but no one has the ability to assert that I, already in the emotional field. All the mystery; I can lead all the people through the maze. Of course I can’t. It is not easy to determine whether the feeling of getting to the hand is what you really want. It is easy to look after this time and doubt your own eyesight. I wonder if there is any better wheat in the world waiting for myself.