The reason is because you don’t want to come out at all.

To the one who is lost in love, when you are sad and sad, you can put it down with your face hurt. Learn the life issues brought by love, and after you lose your dependence, you can stand strong on your own. Everyone has had a love hurt, and they have all gone out of love. However, every time in the emotional injury, the kind of heartbreaking pain, people breathless, as if they are dying. In fact, no love hurts can not go, time is the best medicine, just the pain of that moment, it is a bit unbearable. So, is there any magical medicine that quickly gets out of love? I think there is still something, and I will sort it out and share it with you. Looking for the next one, no one is irreplaceable, the love of ordinary men and women, compared to the pain of losing a close relative, in fact, it is better to come out. When I was young, my healing method was the same: find the next one. Later, I had an unforgettable love, almost unable to go out, and finally realized that the first trick was to: let go of him. Don’t laugh, this is a bad trick, let me explain. Our attachment to a person is actually a definite one: this life is not his own, and others cannot substitute. In fact, this is a very fatal mistake. Who can’t live without anyone? I am over half a century old and have a lot of practical experience. I can really tell you clearly and categorically: No one is irreplaceable. Maybe you can’t find someone who knows you better than him. Maybe you can’t find someone who looks better than him. Maybe you can’t find someone who tastes more than him. Maybe you can’t find better than him. People, maybe you can’t find someone more loyal than him. These are all possible, but they don’t constitute the absolute reason why you can’t lose him. Without him, you can still live very well. So, don’t let the attachment to your feelings abduct you, don’t let the wrong ideas mislead you, and affect your true happiness. Hurry to learn what he wants to teach you. In addition, intimate partners are actually teaching us homework, especially the fatal and attractive relationship. You know that the other person is not suitable, you should not love him, but it seems that you can’t get rid of this spell. Then, congratulations, he is your best guru. For example, a man who is unreliable is teaching you to learn to be independent. He is always depressed or does not care about you. He is teaching you to learn to have fun in life. Don’t rely on him. He is not good to you. I teach you to learn to love yourself and to be good to yourself; he is telling you how to control yourself, and to teach you to learn to respect yourself and draw a line for yourself. After you have learned your homework, you will find that you slowly recover your strength from him and become more and more independent. At this time, if you think he is still a good companion, then continue; if it feels inappropriate, then I can “put down” him very sensibly. So, the second trick is to quickly learn how he wants to teach you homework, then it is easy to let go. There is a strong will to get out of love. No one can make you hurt so long, unless you are willing to do it yourself. Therefore, the third trick is to have a strong will to get out of love. You can close your heart, let yourself indulge in love, never talk about feelings or never believe in love, but that is your own loss. The outside world won’t get worse because of your weeping, but your world is chosen by yourself. Heaven and hell, sometimes just a thought. I can cite two extreme examples of the loss of a close relative to illustrate how you can make an informed choice. A friend of mine, from a young age, was brought up by her grandmother, and her parents were far away from her. But the grandmother loved her and held her like a little princess. However, she was regarded as the “day” grandmother in her 18 I passed away that year. She did not indulge in the pain of losing her dependence, but became an independent, independent and capable woman, and loved herself in a way that her grandmother loved her (this is very important). Although I feel that she still lives a little girl who needs love and needs to identify, but she has a very confident and powerful atmosphere, with very positive power and energy. The other one is an artist I know. On the day he went to the army, the mother sent him to the station. After he got on the bus, he tried to find the dear mother in the crowd, but only saw a glimpse of the mother’s skirt and high heels. When my mother went back to the day, she died of a heart attack. So he spent all his life in the pain of losing his mother. In his intimate relationship, he repeated the pattern of “no love, no love,” and repeatedly experienced the pain of losing love. I have seen his work, which contains the greatest grief in his heart, so it is very infectious. His loss and grief were not hesitated to portray his face. The degree of grief made me feel that even if his mother died and resurrected, he could not make up for the big black hole that he lost in his heart. These two friends, they have similar experiences, but the choices are different. Speaking of choice, in fact, she did not make a “conscious” decision: I want to come out of grief and become an independent and shining person. He also did not make a “conscious” decision: I want to immerse myself in the grief of losing my mother. So, from a certain point of view, it seems that this is destined. But my own experience is that once you are conscious, for example, seeing this article, you feel that you are too indulgent in the loss of the past, and therefore want to come out, then this is the best motivation. Let you have the will to come out. Otherwise, like the above, he sucked his wounds and never realized that the wound could be healed. When you have a strong desire to get out of love, you will find that there are many people and things that will help you in your life, and focus more on them. At the same time, I also suggest talking to those who are brave enough to get out of the situation, listen to their experiences and processes, and then tell themselves: they can, I can. In the end, what I want to say is that the person who left, and saddened you, is not him, but the pain that has been abandoned for a long time or not loved. Recognizing this and being willing to take responsibility for it is the best way to get out of the situation. The first three moves are not as powerful as this. The mouth can be healed. When you have a strong desire to get out of love, you will find that there are many people and things that will help you in your life, and focus more on them. At the same time, I also suggest talking to those who are brave enough to get out of the situation, listen to their experiences and processes, and then tell themselves: they can, I can. In the end, what I want to say is that the person who left, and saddened you, is not him, but the pain that has been abandoned for a long time or not loved. Recognizing this and being willing to take responsibility for it is the best way to get out of the situation. The first three moves are not as powerful as this. The mouth can be healed. When you have a strong desire to get out of love, you will find that there are many people and things that will help you in your life, and focus more on them. At the same time, I also suggest talking to those who are brave enough to get out of the situation, listen to their experiences and processes, and then tell themselves: they can, I can. In the end, what I want to say is that the person who left, and saddened you, is not him, but the pain that has been abandoned for a long time or not loved. Recognizing this and being willing to take responsibility for it is the best way to get out of the situation. The first three moves are not as powerful as this.